Dating nepa

It has changed my concepts of love, of dating, and of marriage. Maybe for the better. I used to think it was all fairy tale stuff, but somehow, I now believe in the myth of true and pure love — the kind they sing about on the radio and play out in the movies.

Of course, working on a project like Untouchable Love gave me an insight into this myth. For Untouchable Love is essentially a documentary about dating, love and marriage in Hindu societies, with specific focus on Nepal. And this society is still traditional enough for the concept of love in its purest form to flourish. I do believe the evil of caste does help this love to come into the open.

The world over, youth are always rebellious. They will smoke marijuana and drink alcohol simply because adults tell them that they cannot do so. In Nepal, they will fall in love with persons from another caste in defiance of their customs. And this, good Lord, it does exemplify true love. For one who lives in a sadly much more Westernized country, where the concept of marriage and love has lost meaning, seeing these young people enduring endless torture, jail, bloodshed and death in the name of love, makes you think that probably there is something in those songs of Celine Dione, and of Minnie Ripperton, and the whole bunch of them.

Okay, I stared out writing about what is fun about dating in Nepal. Full of humor, culture shocks, and very embarrassing moments. This is after I kissed one of them. She was willing, but the moment our lips parted, she fled to the bathroom and washed her mouth. I could not understand it. Many of you will already know that here, people do not date in the open. At least not in the rural areas.

In the cities, and big towns, it is easy for western style of dating to take place. You would also know that when you ask a Nepali girl out, she will come with a friend, not to detooth gold digger you, or to drink up all your money and run, like some Ugandan girls would do, but for security.

In the cities, it is easy to hide an affair from the adults. But in the rural areas, where every move you make is scrutinized, how do you ensure secrecy? I found an answer. It is in poo. My bowels were nearly bursting and I was farting a lot. I asked Manoj, the young man who became one of the lead characters in the documentary, to show me a toilet. So do not worry, no woman will stumble upon you while you are doing it. I had expected a proper latrine, but a bush?

I had to smile at the humor in it. At that time, I did not know the significance of the open-air Gents and Ladies. I did not know how important it was to romance, and dating. In those days, it was still possible for the young men and women to leave the house at night in the pretext of going to the designated fields, and meeting up somewhere. This was part of a traditional system for socializing. Once the toilets were built and water was piped to the houses, these opportunities of socializing were wiped-out.

While interviewing couples for the love documentary, some of them told me they used to meet late in the night, and I always wondered how the girls would sneak out of their homes in the dark — how they would escape the scrutiny of their parents, but this article certainly explains a lot.

Instead, he would ask an older sister, or woman, to accompany her. Often, the person accompanying the girl will be in on the trick. Now, the lovers have to make the meeting as quick as possible, for staying out too long might raise suspicions. The conversation would go something like this. Were you pooing bones? I wish I had this kind of information while I was interviewing the lovers. It might have made their testimonies a notch more interesting.

But even back home in Uganda, I know some girls would sneak out of home in the pretext of going to the bathroom, and instead meeting with their boyfriends. You see, makeshift bathrooms are used in rural Uganda, as well as in some urban areas. The walls are made of banana fibres, or papyrus. It is thus easy to make a hole in such a make-shift wall. I once heard of a married women who was bathing in the night, or her husband thought she was bathing.

But she had to bend over to pour bathe — the water being in a basin — well, when she did that, she put her punnynanny on the hole in the wall. Behind the wall, her secret lover was waiting — he poked her doggy style.

Her husband was suspicious of the noises, so he sneaked to the bathroom to investigate. He stood at a distance and peeped. From the lights of the lamp that the woman had taken with her, he saw his wife making weird movements and groans as she threw water over her body. The husband was about to give it up as female eccentricities when he heard her lover groaning in pleasure.

He figured out the trick at once and charged into the bathroom. I hear the lover came as he was fleeing for his life. Modern lovers in Taudaha Lake, on the road to Bansbari pharping, just outside Kathmandu. Lovers in Taudaha Lake, Kathmandu.


Living in Nepal these last fifteen or so months has been an eye opening experience for me. It has changed my concepts of love, of dating, and of marriage. Maybe for the better. I used to think it was all fairy tale stuff, but somehow, I now believe in the myth of true and pure . Did you know there are fun-seeking, attractive singles all over Pennsylvania waiting to meet you? Join Mingle2 and start chatting today! We are one of the internet’s best % FREE dating sites, with thousands of quality singles located throughout Pennsylvania looking to meet people like YOU. No gimmicks or tricks, here.

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